SELF LOVE
Love Who You are
as a Person
and Others will Too
The more I learn about relationships of any kind, the more I learn about how importance of loving one’s self.
The fact of the matter is, that you cannot love another until you experience self love. You cannot care, nurture, and love another until you have established a similar relationship with yourself. In order to find love and fulfillment with another person, we need to start with having a love affair with ourselves. By following our dreams, doing things that make us happy and fulfilled, and respecting ourselves, we begin to bring fullness into our lives. It is this fullness and that creates genuine happiness that becomes a magnet to others. Have you ever met someone that just has great energy and has a great life? You feel instantly attracted to them. You want to be around them and be with them, it’s like they have this special something that you can’t quite put your finger on it, you don’t know what it is, but it is intoxicatingly attractive and you are just drawn to them. It’s almost as if they have some kind of magical quality about them. This quality is self love.
Compassion for Yourself
Your happiness, fulfillment, and attractiveness to others have a direct relationship to what you give to yourself. Your self-esteem has a huge effect on your relationships. It is important to look within and begin to give the compassion and nurturing that you would give to another, to yourself. Give yourself the same kind of devotion that you would give your significant other. Begin by identifying what it is that gets your heart beating, what it is that brings you joy and happiness. Allow yourself permission to be self-indulgent and explore different outlets that lead to self-discovery. It is important that you really have a good sense of who you are and what you want in life. If you get nothing else out of this article, understand this point: Whatever you want out of life, whether happiness, love, commitment, or fill the blank, you must first give this to yourself. When we begin to follow our dreams and do the things that make us happy, we become a magnet for love. We begin to be that person with the great energy that everyone wants to be around because we stoked that fire within.
Where do You Give in?
Next, we need to be honest with ourselves about where we comprise. I’m not referring to the comprise that we do when we are meeting someone halfway, not the same comprise we talk about when we say, “life is about compromises.”I am talking about the comprise we make, when we let someone else treat us in a way that we know in our hearts is not right. When we allow someone to give us less than we deserve. This is probably one of the most difficult admissions to make. We don’t like to admit that we knowingly settle for less, because if we are aware of it and do nothing to change it, we are creating and reinforcing our own unhappiness. That is a difficult a pill to swallow. However, by being honest with ourselves and admitting where we compromise our well being in our relationships, we begin to shed some light and bring awareness to it. From there we can begin to heal the old wounds that cause us to believe that we should accept less than we deserve. It is important that you heal this aspect within yourself because until you do, you will keep finding yourself in the same type of dysfunctional (romantic, work, and friendship) relationships and with the same type of ‘character’ that reinforces this belief. Once you heal the old wound that has caused you to compromise yourself, you will stop diluting your personal power and stop attracting people that are unavailable in some way. You will begin attracting people that are more honest, loving, respectful and can give you the love that you deserve. In other words, by loving yourself you will invite more love in your life.
Return to Emotional Wellness
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